As I drag my tired body along the landing at 1.52am, muttering angrily about the nightly bed swapping, I feel a wave of guilt for not simply throwing a welcoming arm around my son and ushering him into my bed. As a mother, I am supposed to always put my children’s needs above my own desires. His need for comfort and company at night, is greater than my desire for an uninterrupted night’s sleep. For maternal love is selfless; children have needs which must be met, and mothers only desires which can be cast aside and, if met, have been selfishly pursued.
By talking about the need to raise boys with an awareness of boundaries, consent and respect for women we are, implicitly or explicitly, blaming mothers for the actions of men who commit sexual assaults.
I was going to write a post about the new BBC comedy ‘Motherland’ and its representation of motherhood, because, well that’s right up my street. Then I thought, what’s the bloody point of that? Who is on their edge of their seat waiting for my take on it? But then since we’re all pushing on in an endless sea of pointlessness, I thought I’d crash on anyway.
It’s a bit early for a 2017 round up I know, but I’ve read some excellent books this year that you might want to consider as Christmas presents for the readers in your life.
Is working full time compatible with raising school aged children? This was the question I posed, somewhat rhetorically, on Twitter a few nights ago. The deluge of responses I received were pretty unequivocal : Without bucket loads of support it was either impossible or very, very difficult.
Sometime ago I , rather loftily , began referring to these ramblings as a ‘ feminist parenting’ blog. Why ? And what does it even mean ? Other than rolling my eyes whenever people call my daughter a princess ?
This morning I have read articles about Paw Patrol pyjamas designed for boys, with the girl character removed. I have also read about girls’ school shoes called ‘Dolly Babes’ and shoes for infants with wedge heels.
I worked with a guy who everytime I got my hair cut, told me it was, ‘ a real mammy hair cut.’ It really, really pissed me off.
An Irish newspaper published some thoughts from the mind of a middle aged man this week on the issue of wolf whistling and cat calling.
This article on ‘How Feminism Has Left SAHMs Behind’ has been doing the rounds on social media the last few days, and I wanted to comment on it pretty heavily since it discusses a few things I have plenty of opinions about. Also, I’m just back off holiday and I haven’t blogged in a while so this is as good a place as any to kick things off again.
Talking about sex with your children , and promoting healthy body image and good self esteem aren’t the preserve of Feminist parenting. But if feminism is , at it’s core, about equality and respect for all, including oneself, then promoting these positive messages to our children is key.