Category Motherhood

A bed of one’s own: short notes on co-sleeping.

I lie in bed at night, drifting off and hear the feet approaching, steadily pacing along the landing. Shortly after, a small, hot body climbs over me and takes her place between myself and her father. She wedges herself against me, claiming the pillow as entirely hers. It’s funny how a four year old can […]

What I’ve been reading: Making Babies and Super Sperm

Recently I’ve read two very different pieces of writing, but both of which highlight the importance of being aware of the voices behind the stories which shape our beliefs. One is a book about the early days of motherhood, and the other an academic article analysing the language used to talk about male and female […]

What makes a woman strong, anyway?

I bet if you’re known as your family’s pet feminist people are always recommending movies and TV shows to you on the basis of the ‘strong female characters.’ ” Oh, you’d like that , lots of strong women in it.” Cue rolling of eyes.

#metoo: Blame the mother.

By talking about the need to raise boys with an awareness of boundaries, consent and respect for women we are, implicitly or explicitly, blaming mothers for the actions of men who commit sexual assaults.

When your kids don’t like the things you like.

I’m a reader. I’ve always been a reader. On school holidays we’d go to France for a few weeks in the summer ( the benefits of having teachers as parents, who had holidays the same time as you , and not just 20 days annual leave) and I would devour piles of books.

What’s wrong with being comfortable, anyway?

Hello. I haven’t been here for a while. Does that mean I have had no interesting thoughts? Nothing deemed worthy of sharing with the world, or at least the miniscule percentage of it that might stumble upon this blog anyway. I have had lots of thoughts, of course, most of them maudlin and catastrophic, it […]

Poem : But you are always beautiful

BBC Comedy ‘Motherland’ and popular representations of motherhood.

I was going to write a post about the new BBC comedy ‘Motherland’ and its representation of motherhood, because, well that’s right up my street. Then I thought, what’s the bloody point of that? Who is on their edge of their seat waiting for my take on it? But then since we’re all pushing on […]

2017 Book Recommendations: Women, Therapy and Feminism

It’s a bit early for a 2017 round up I know, but I’ve read some excellent books this year that you might want to consider as Christmas presents for the readers in your life.

Poem: Slow Down

Slow Down:

She is four. Or, do you think I don’t love my children because I moan about parenting?

I’ve sometimes wondered if I could write one of those powerful emotional posts I see other bloggers write about their children. Where the love seeps through the page, and the words claw at your heart. Making you remember all the reasons you love being a parent; making you want to eat the chubby thighs of […]

Is working full-time compatible with raising school aged children? Discuss

Is working full time compatible with raising school aged children? This was the question I posed, somewhat rhetorically, on Twitter a few nights ago. The deluge of responses I received were pretty unequivocal : Without bucket loads of support it was either impossible or very, very difficult.