As I drag my tired body along the landing at 1.52am, muttering angrily about the nightly bed swapping, I feel a wave of guilt for not simply throwing a welcoming arm around my son and ushering him into my bed. As a mother, I am supposed to always put my children’s needs above my own desires. His need for comfort and company at night, is greater than my desire for an uninterrupted night’s sleep. For maternal love is selfless; children have needs which must be met, and mothers only desires which can be cast aside and, if met, have been selfishly pursued.
Two stories about mothering in the headlines this week. One on breastfeeding, or rather bottle feeding, based on the news that updated advice from the Royal College of Midwives stresses that new mothers should be given appropriate support if they make an informed decision to bottle feed. The other on ‘working mothers’ and how they’re total slackers in the workplace.
It’s a bit early for a 2017 round up I know, but I’ve read some excellent books this year that you might want to consider as Christmas presents for the readers in your life.
Sometime ago I , rather loftily , began referring to these ramblings as a ‘ feminist parenting’ blog. Why ? And what does it even mean ? Other than rolling my eyes whenever people call my daughter a princess ?
This morning I have read articles about Paw Patrol pyjamas designed for boys, with the girl character removed. I have also read about girls’ school shoes called ‘Dolly Babes’ and shoes for infants with wedge heels.
I worked with a guy who everytime I got my hair cut, told me it was, ‘ a real mammy hair cut.’ It really, really pissed me off.
An Irish newspaper published some thoughts from the mind of a middle aged man this week on the issue of wolf whistling and cat calling.
This article on ‘How Feminism Has Left SAHMs Behind’ has been doing the rounds on social media the last few days, and I wanted to comment on it pretty heavily since it discusses a few things I have plenty of opinions about. Also, I’m just back off holiday and I haven’t blogged in a while so this is as good a place as any to kick things off again.
It’s so much easier to love your body in winter. Swathed in knitted jumpers, enveloped in oversized cardigans, legs snuggled into cosy opaques. In Winter , I am happy with my body.
Talking about sex with your children , and promoting healthy body image and good self esteem aren’t the preserve of Feminist parenting. But if feminism is , at it’s core, about equality and respect for all, including oneself, then promoting these positive messages to our children is key.
Women in Leadership events and initiatives are becoming increasingly common. This is good news, to an extent. That we are recognising the importance of seeing women in roles of power and authority. To make sure it’s not just the middle aged white guys making all the decisions. But something about the focus on women in leadership was starting to annoy me a bit though I couldn’t quite put my finger on what it was.