Yes, Please by Amy Poehler.
In one of the earliest posts on the blog, I wrote about Confidence and Women I Wish I Was. Top of my inspiring women list was Amy Poehler. Many readers agreed and like me had also read Poehler’s recent memoir ‘Yes , Please’. Before reading this book, I admired her as a ballsy, confident, successful actress, comedian and writer. Her sitcom ‘Parks and Recreation’ portrays a nerdy, ambitious woman who puts female friendship before romantic liaisons, or ‘Ovaries before Brovaries‘.
I read ‘Yes , Please’ last summer, and picked it up again last week when I was having some confidence wobbles and wondering as to the focus and purpose behind the blog. What’s the point? was the regular, feeble refrain I could hear in the back of my mind. I picked up the Poehler for inspiration and was reminded.
Poehler has a refreshing dose of healthy self-esteem and she believes that successful people do things before they are ready and advises people to ‘do’ outside their comfort zone,
“Don’t quiet your voice because you’re worried it isn’t perfect.”
So, inspired, I carry on.
A kick up the arse.
It’s worth pointing out that Poehler acknowledges her position of privilege as a , ‘blonde white lady in America’. She is aware that she has been and is lucky in the opportunities available to her because of this privilege. She is very much an advocate of taking control and responsibility for your life. It’s not a self-help book, but there are many moments of Pinterest worthy inspirational quotes. If you need a kick up the arse, pick it up.
On taking control:
On getting older:
Good for her! Not for Me.
The stand out piece of advice for me in this book, which is part auto-biography, part random musings from a successful woman in her forties, is the motto, ‘Good for Her ! Not for me.’ Poehler advises that we repeat this to ourselves over and over – my choice might not be your choice , that’s fine, ‘Good for her! Not for me.’ Women are regularly pitted against each other, often by the media, but also amongst ourselves. Poehler says,
“We torture ourselves and we torture each other, and all of it leads to a lot of women on women crime.”
None of us win, in this scenario. There is not some holy grail of womanhood we can achieve if only we can find the perfect balance of everything demanded of us. Good for her! Not for me.
And so, in the spirit of doing and moving outside your comfort zone, themotherhub is launching a line of T-shirts, the first design being Poehler’s motto for life. T-shirts will be available to purchase soon, but to be in with a chance of winning one head over to my Twitter or Instagram feed. (*update Competition now closed but head to Shop for purchase)