Good for Her! Not for me.

Yes, Please by Amy Poehler.

In one of the earliest posts on the blog, I wrote about Confidence and Women I Wish I Was. Top of my inspiring women list was Amy Poehler. Many readers agreed and like me had also read Poehler’s recent memoir ‘Yes , Please’. Before reading this book, I admired her as a ballsy, confident, successful actress, comedian and writer. Her sitcom ‘Parks and Recreation’ portrays a nerdy, ambitious woman who puts female friendship before romantic liaisons, or ‘Ovaries before Brovaries‘.

I read ‘Yes , Please’ last summer, and picked it up again last week when I was having some confidence wobbles and wondering as to the focus and purpose behind the blog. What’s the point? was the regular, feeble refrain I could hear in the back of my mind. I picked up the Poehler for inspiration and was reminded.


Poehler has a refreshing dose of healthy self-esteem and she believes that successful people do things before they are ready and advises people to ‘do’ outside their comfort zone,

“Don’t quiet your voice because you’re worried it isn’t perfect.”

So, inspired, I carry on.

A kick up the arse.

It’s worth pointing out that Poehler acknowledges her position of privilege as a , ‘blonde white lady in America’. She is aware that she has been and is lucky in the opportunities available to her because of this privilege. She is very much an advocate of taking control and responsibility for your life. It’s not a self-help book, but there are many moments of Pinterest worthy inspirational quotes. If you need a kick up the arse, pick it up.

On taking control:

Decide what your currency is early.Let go of what you will never have.

On getting older:


Good for her! Not for Me.

The stand out piece of advice for me in this book, which is part auto-biography, part random musings from a successful woman in her forties, is the motto, ‘Good for Her ! Not for me.’ Poehler advises that we repeat this to ourselves over and over – my choice might not be your choice , that’s fine, ‘Good for her! Not for me.’  Women are regularly pitted against each other, often by the media, but also amongst ourselves. Poehler says,

“We torture ourselves and we torture each other, and all of it leads to a lot of women on women crime.”

None of us win, in this scenario. There is not some holy grail of womanhood we can achieve if only we can find the perfect balance of everything demanded of us. Good for her! Not for me.

And so, in the spirit of doing and moving outside your comfort zone, themotherhub is launching a line of T-shirts, the first design being Poehler’s motto for life. T-shirts will be available to purchase soon, but to be in with a chance of winning one head over to my Twitter or Instagram feed. (*update Competition now closed but head to Shop for purchase)


55 thoughts on “Good for Her! Not for me.

  1. I love this! I knew the “good for her” quote already, but what I hadn’t heard was the one about doing things before you are ready. That’s really interesting, as I feel as though I spend my life waiting for the “right time” to do things sometimes. Perhaps I need to stop! #dreamteam

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  2. Love this – thanks for introducing me to AP! I hadn’t heard of her before.
    Love those quotes, I must try and remember those nuggets of wisdom…
    And GO YOU on your T-shirt line, amazing.


  3. Well done for having the guts to go out and launch your own t-shirt…Amy would be proud! I’ve been reading a great book called “How to be a bad ass” which is all about not doubting your awesomeness. I think we all need a little pep talk now and again. Great post, I’ll give it a share. Tor xx #brillblogposts

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    1. Thanks for that – I’ve been in a comfort zone for a million years so have to try something new at this stage. Thanks for the supportive comment – they are greatly needed !


  4. I agree with this so wholeheartedly. I was really interested in her point about: successful people do things before they are ready. That is true. I love your review of points she makes in her book. It certainly sounds like a good, thought-provoking read. Thank you for sharing it. Good luck with the fab t shirts 🙂 Alison x #brilliantblogposts

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  5. This is a brilliant venture, very exciting for you and can’t wait to hear more! I saw your post on IG and am a bit fan of AP and the quote too, such a great message to us all. Thanks for linking to #dreamteam xx

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      1. Just popping back again to say still love this! Hope your venture goes really well and I think you have to go for it if the idea strikes 🙂 Thanks so much for linking up at #KCACOLS. Hope you come back again next Sunday xx

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  6. So glad everything went well, I cant believe you are half way already! You’re so patient not finding out, we found out with all five, I just couldn’t stand the wait!! Love the photo of the girls holding the scan, whether this baby is another girl or a little boy, they are going to be so loved aren’t they? #KCACOLS


  7. What a briiliant idea 🙂 I love that quote, women need to stop seeing each other as the enemy! Imagine if we did…look out men you won’t know what’s hit you! Good luck and let me know where I can can get one! #KCACOLS

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  8. Just what I love to read, some good ol’ positive thinking. I haven’t heard of this book before and it sounds like a solid read. I am going to check it out. Love the T Shirt btw. Thank you for linking up to the #DreamTeam

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  9. This is a great quote. And it is so right. Just because something isn’t good for us, doesn’t mean it won’t work for someone else and we shouldn’t judge them for it x

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  10. I love YES PLEASE – I was just nodding along the whole time -like she is SOOOOO right about everything in that book! Parks and Rec is hilarious! This is a great idea, I love your positive attitude – GOOD FOR YOU x


  11. Ah what a great idea! Love the t shirt and all of the Poelher quotes. This definitely sounds like a book I can get behind, going to Amazon this right now. : ) Thanks for the advice and sharing with #StayClassyMama! Did I say I love the t shirts?!?!


  12. Love the quotes, definitely words to live by. Must check out her book. Totally agree that, as women, we need to support each other instead of competing with each other (unless you’re in the Olympics but even there we saw athletes help each other out which was so wonderful). #ablogginggoodtime


  13. Such a positive and inspirational piece. I’ve been having a blogfidence crisis too and this was just what I needed to read! The stand out quote for me was don’t quiet your voice because you’re worried it isn’t perfect! Thank you for linking this fab post up to #ablogginggoodtime 🎉

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